Sunday, 9 June 2013

Character Death



There was no wind, and Rilla heard distinctly a dog howling in a melancholy way down in the direction of the station. Was it Dog Monday? And if it were, why was he howling like that? Rilla shivered; the sound had something boding and grievous in it. She remembered that Miss Oliver said once, when they were coming home in the darkness and heard a dog howl, "When a dog cries like that the Angel of Death is passing." Rilla listened with a curdling fear at her heart. It was Dog Monday - she felt sure of it. Whose dirge was he howling - to whose spirit was he sending that anguished greeting and farewell?

Rilla went back to bed but she could not sleep. All day she watched and waited with a dread of which she did not speak to anyone. She went down to see Dog Monday and the station-master said, "That dog of yours howled from midnight to sunrise something weird. I dunno what got into him. I got up once and went out and hollered at him but he paid no 'tention to me. He was sitting all alone in the moonlight out there at the end of the platform, and every few minutes the poor lonely beggar'd lift his nose and howl as if his heart was breaking. He never did it afore - always slept in his kennel real quiet and canny from train to train. But he sure had something on his mind last night."

Dog Monday was lying in his kennel. He wagged his tail and licked Rilla's hand. But he would not touch the food she brought for him.

"I'm afraid he's sick," she said anxiously. She hated to go away and leave him. But no bad news came that day - nor the next - nor the next. Rilla's fear lifted. Dog Monday howled no more and resumed his routine of train meeting and watching. When five days had passed the Ingleside people began to feel they might be cheerful again. Rilla dashed about the kitchen helping Susan with the breakfast and singing so sweetly and clearly that Cousin Sophia across the road heard her and croaked out to Mrs. Albert

" 'Sing before eating, cry before sleeping.' I've always heard."

But Rilla Blythe shed no tears before the nightfall. When her father, his face grey and drawn and old, came to her that afternoon and told her that Walter had been killed in action at Courcelette she crumpled up in a pitiful little heap of merciful unconsciousness in his arms. Nor did she awaken to her pain for many hours.

- Rilla of Ingleside, by Lucy Maud Montgomery


 



I've been sobbing for the past one hour.

Every time; every single time I read this book, 
I start sobbing like there's no tomorrow at this bit, and I don't quite stop until the very end of the book, and then I usually cry some more.

I first read this book when I was 12 (I think), and I've re-read it at least 30 times since then, 
and although I know Walter is going to die, 
his death stabs me right through the heart every time.
It's been years and years and I still haven't gotten over Walter Blythe dying.



For those of you who don't know, 
Rilla of Ingleside is the eighth and last book of the Anne of Green Gables series.
It's one of my favourites of the series, partly because it's so bittersweet.

If you haven't read the series yet ...GO READ IT. NOW.

I grew up with Anne, and Gilbert, and their children. And every few months, I get the urge to pick up one of the books and read my favourite sections.

Particularly now, when I've resorted to turning to my old books for comfort.

There's something so warm and secure about being able to turn to a book like an old friend, and to seek out phrases or chapters that got you through troubled times once before.
And to know that the same familiar characters will step through the pages to help pull you through turmoil once again.


(am I making sense?)
 





In other news, 
I still have made no progress on my portfolio.
(but hey look, I blogged twice in one day!)

Also having major pms right now, 
which would probably explain all the uncharacteristic weeping I've been doing the past few days.
 

 ~vid~

Saturday, 8 June 2013

Procrastination Post #23029





Okay, 

I am supposed to be going out in about 10 minutes (which is obviously not happening now that I've started this post) so this is going to be rushed, 
and since Im'm also listening to emo hindi songs while typing this out, this post is also probably going to be rather incoherent.

But yes, anyway...





First off, Congratulations C2/10!
My batch (or my old batch, rather - not that any of you are reading this) is graduating today!

In case you haven't quite made the connection yet... I am not graduating with them.
Did not pass my final exam in February.

There.
Finally mentioned this on the blog.
But I'm not going to be wallowing in emotionssss today.
I refuse to.
God knows I've done enough feeling sorry for myself over the past few months.




Moving onnn,


Today's post is about...
*drumroll*

Procrastination!

...actually, I just came across this video yesterday, 
(while procrastinating on starting my portfolio *cough*)
and I was itching to share it somewhere on the Internet, but I've already been spamming my twitter and tumblr more than I usually do, 
and then it hit me...I have a blog!

ahem.

I've been starting my portfolio since last weekend, 



On Monday, I finally opened my old portfolio - because we usually just use the old portfolios as templates for the new ones; just change the content here and there, 
and all I did was change the professor's name on every page (because I'm handing my new portfolio in to a diff professor), 
and ...well, that's it.

That's like 0.00005% progress, but its all the progress I've made over the past one week.
I kid you not.
We don't have a specific deadline, 
but I thiiiink I was supposed to get it done by last weekend.

Oh well.
Oops.

Right so anyway, 
this video yesterday hit really close to home, 
because this is exactly what I've been doing for the past one week. 
(Also what I do when I'm supposed to be studying for exams - minus the printer bit)

Ta-daa!









I have missed blogging.

I will TRY, 
-Keyword : TRY (in caps in case you missed it)-
to blog more often in the coming few weeks.

or not.
Depending on how depressed I am.

And I don't mean depressed as in sad,
I mean depressed as in depressed.
DSM criteria and all that good stuff.



meh.

And now, I really have to go.
And as a sign of protest against the universe for not allowing me to graduate today,

I am going to go get some weird colour in my hair, and another piercing or something.
Because that's what rebellious teenagers like myself do when we're upset.

...what no I'm not in denial about my age what are you talking about.




I WILL BE FUNNIER THE NEXT TIME I POST I PROMISE.



~vid~

Friday, 17 May 2013

Retirement




And now David Beckham has retired.

I give up.
I just. ..
I give up.


First Edwin van der Sar, 
and then Gary Neville, 
and then this year, Sir Alex Ferguson, 
Paul Scholes, 
Phil Neville (yes I know he plays for Everton but I have always loved him and always will ok)
and now Becks.


WHAT IS THIS SOME KIND OF DOMINO EFFECT.


If Giggy goes any time soon too, I will just break down and cry and refuse to go on with life.


I'm going to go curl up in my blanket and weep forever now.



Football, bloody hell.


~vid~

Wednesday, 8 May 2013

The Legend Leaves





This is going to be an emotional, rushed, incoherent post.

Sir Alex Ferguson announced his retirement today.
After passing hints all week that he wasn't ready to leave, that he wouldn't leave just yet...today, he announces that he will retire at the end of this season.

It has taken a while for the shock to set in.
For me to able to come to terms with the fact that the legend - THE legend - is leaving us.

I am 23 years old.
Sir Alex has been manager for United for 26 years.
I have never known a United without him.

19 years I've supported this club, I've seen players come and go, (except Ryan Giggs), 
I've cried over old players leaving, 
I've welcomed new players into my heart and then cried again when they left too,
but that's what football is about.
Circle of life, and all that.

But Sir Alex leaving just seems so horribly, horribly wrong.
It's like my entire foundation has been rocked.

Part of me doesn't want to accept that he's leaving.
Part of me hopes that he will pull a Paul Scholes and come out of retirement again, 

but part of me has begun to accept it.

I don't want to know who his successor will be.
Not today.
It will be too final.

And I honestly don't know how to accept anyone else in this place.
Will I love them as much as I loved Sir Alex?

..I know I will. I love the club so much that anyone who stands at the helm will be loved regardless.
But still.

Like one of the other fans tweeted, 
It's like your Dad is retiring from being your Dad.

That's exactly what it feels like.



But thank you, Sir Alex.
Thank you for being there for us all these years.
Thank you for United.
Thank you for all the wins, all the trophies, all the glory.
Thank you for all the players you turned into stars.

Thank you for making me fall in love with football.


We will miss you.
The hairdryer treatments,
Fergie time, 
watching you on the sidelines.
We will miss you very, very much

Thank you for everything.




Now excuse me while I go drown my emotions in a flood of tears.

~vid~

Sunday, 28 April 2013

Written in the stars


Okay, 
so if I'm apparently "destined" to marry a guy who is :

- tall
- medium-fair (whatever that is supposed to mean)
- and has a long nose

 ...does that mean I can just get married to Karan Singh Grover?











(I mean just look at him)



 

~vid~



p.s. HELLO YOU GUYS THE FANGIRL IS BACK. I know you missed me. Don't lie. 

p.s.2. yes yes I just needed the excuse to spam.

Sunday, 7 April 2013

.

I'm still alive, in case anyone's wondering.




~vid~

Tuesday, 19 February 2013

Arranged Marriages

I don't have anything against arranged marriages.
I really don't.
I just would not want to be a part of one.




Sure, it would save us a lot of time and trouble, not having to look for "the one".

No courtships, breakups and all that nonsense.



But where's the fun in that? 

Isn't that what relationships are supposed to be about?
Building a lasting bond between a couple.
Making them go through the ups and downs of life, together, 
So that they treasure the bond, the connection that they share.
So that they know that they can't live without the other; that even if they can't be together physically, they are never apart mentally,
So that they know that they have found "the one", and not just any other one, but "the RIGHT one".

But imagine if you were told one day, that your parents have found "the one" for you.

How sure can you be that that person would be "the RIGHT one" for you?
You might have similar religions, cultures, reputations, horoscopes even, but somehow the connection, the trust, the comforting familiarity and the LOVE isn't there.




Of course, love can be fostered over time.

Some arranged marriages do end up with a happily ever after, if I do say so myself. 
But will it ever be as strong as love that has persevered through thick and thin?
That has been beaten, broken and torn apart only to be brought back together again, stronger than ever?
Maybe. Who am I to say it won't?




But at the end of the day, you'll feel like the choice wasn't your own, but somebody else's, be it your parents, grandparents or guardian. 

You've already let them dictate the majority of your life choices: the type of friends you should hang out with, how you should behave, what career path you should follow... Are you going to let them decide who you should marry as well?




Maybe the beauty of arranged marriages is that you won't have to bear the consequences of your actions. At the end of the day, if your marriage doesn't work out (as do many marriages these days), you are not to be blamed. After all, you didn't choose who to marry. So easy to shift the blame to someone else.





But someday, after a long, hard day at work, when you come home to find some affection or solace in your spouse's arms only to end up quarreling or bickering with them over some petty matter, you might sit down and think: Did my parents make the right choice? What if I had made the choice myself? Would I entrust my whole life, my happiness, and my heart to this very person?

You'll find that sometimes, the answer is no. 

---


Not sure if any of that made any sense.

Typed the whole thing while 50% sleepy and 45% groggy from the lack of sleep.
The remaining 5% is just my usual blurness.
Vidya chose the topic for me, so if you don't like it, blame her.
*Like I said, easy to put the blame on someone else, eh?




But in all seriousness, arranged marriages have been a big part of my life and is something that I truly care about.

Okay, I lied.
I just made that up to create some dramatic suspense.
Hah!



^ Watch this. Awesome show!


Once again, I am not at all opposed to the idea of arranged marriages.

I know that some of them really do turn out well.
**I do not know that for a fact, I'm just assuming that they do.
Fate does present itself in the most miraculous ways.
And I respect that they are still a part of certain religions or cultures.
I just would not want my marriage to be an arranged one.
But fast forward 20 years and if I'm still single - I might have a different perspective then. ;)
Actually, come to think of it, I would still prefer remaining single than having to resort to arranged marriages.
To me, if the time is right, he will come.
And if it's not, too bad. Don't have to be all sad and desperate about it.
You don't have to be married to live a happy life.
Now if only I could convince my relatives to feel the same way...

***On a completely unrelated note, Happy Chinese New Year to all the Chinese readers out there! :D





- J Me -


Sunday, 17 February 2013

Of Panic Attacks



Actually full-on freaking out now.

Just realized I have wasted 3 whole weeks in which I could have been studying.
THREE weeks.

Shit.

I actually don't know what I've been doing with myself these past few weeks, to be honest.
There are significant gaps in my memory.
:|

And now I have just 7 days in which to study everything under the sun (in medicine) AND read through my portfolios again!
ugh.
Should have at least read through them portfolios sooner.


Should have, should have. 
My whole life is a really long list of should haves.


Nervous as hell now.
If I open a textbook and skim through, its like I already know everything, 
but once I close it - ask me anything, and I wouldn't know the answer.

And holy crap having to face 6 examiners on the day itself!
I am going to dieeeee.
Or make a fool of myself.
...both, probably.


7 more days.
I don't want the exams to come at all, 
and yet I can't wait to be done with it! 
Hopefully I do pass. :/



Haven't even unpacked any of my things yet - just been feeling really unsettled the past three weeks.
Like I'm not sure whether I should set down roots in my own house yet or not.
Leaving everything for after exams.
(at the rate I'm going, I'll be leaving the studying for after exams too)


And it looks like you'll be right, Michelle. I probably won't get my holiday. :(


Pray for me, my dears.
Pray that somehow, within the next one week, I find that motivation to actually sit and study!




What am I doing with my life?



~vid~

Friday, 15 February 2013

Val Day Post


So does anybody else think that writing "Happy V Day!" makes it look like you're wishing people Happy Vagina Day?
No?
Just me then.


First time in five years that I've not wanted to write anything on this blog for Valentine's Day.
But for the sake of tradition..


I think I've mentioned this before - I've never actually had a date on Valentine's Day.
I've had flowers, cards, and one particularly memorable time - grape jam (of all things) ...but never actually a date. 
Despite the boyfriends, I've actually managed to be single on Valentine's Day every year.
Congratulations to me.

It's reached this point where it's beginning to get really fucking depressing.






And there's this huge rain cloud looming over my head, dampening my happiness about everything : Exams.
ugh.
Haven't touched any of my notes these past three weeks, what with people constantly visiting to offer condolences and all.

 

I hope I pass.

I am so sick of medschool.




Roar.
Depressing post.




But Happy Valentine's Day, you lot reading this.
I love you all.











~vid~

Friday, 8 February 2013

The Emperor Syndrome




Remember how I said I was watching a daily hindi soap?

And remember how I'm always whining about how lazy my brother is, and how he gets treated like a king?

Came across this one scene in that soap that made me laugh.
It's crazy how accurately they depict
how Indian mothers treat their sons.


Its in hindi so I'm just going to give you a gist of what's happening :
Basically the girl in blue is staying over at her relatives' house (the other two women in the video) and they're watching this old B&W movie about some Emperor, 
and the girl says something along the lines of  

"What kind of life must the Emperor have had, my God. Must be so nice to have people wait on you like that! But who gets treated like that nowadays?" (not verbatim, just a gist)

...and then her relatives' son comes home, and well....you've gotta see it.




(watch until 1.04  - the rest of it is just stuff related to the drama)


 

I swear to God and all that is sacred, that my mother does EXACTLY what the mother in this scene does.
Right down to wiping the glass down before handing it to him.

And then I decided to play the video for my mother, 
and she actually laughs out loud and goes
"Eh! But I do this for your brother too!"

EXACTLY MY POINT.

And then she says "I treat you like this too" - pause - "actually no, not really"

Yes. No, not really, You do not treat me the way you treat your son. 
-_-



And then my brother comes home right at that moment, 

and I'm still grumbling to my mother about how she doesn't love me as much as she loves her son, 

..and while I'm grumbling, I'm holding out my hand for my brother's dirty socks so I can put them in the laundry bin, 
and then I wash my hands and take out cake from the fridge and cut him a piece, 
and then pour iced water for him, 
and set it all down in front of him and ask him if he wants anything else, 

...and when I'm done, my mother's just sitting there smirking at me.

AND THEN I REALIZE I JUST DID IT TOO.
ON AUTOPILOT.

UGH.



Indian men really do get treated like they're Emperors of the World.
My brother does, anyway.
So does my dad, but he's forgiven because he's my father.


                              

Roar.




~vid~


 p.s. Isn't the guy really cute? I'm in love.